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Hi, I’m Violet and I live in Shrewsbury, England with my kids, two fat cats, a deranged chihuahua called Mort and Blixa the bearded dragon. 

I have been blogging for nearly a decade, but founded Sex, Death, Rock’n’Roll in 2014 in order to start afresh with a more personal approach. I am a lifestyle blogger, but not in the classic sense – you’ll find no boring beige content here. I write about my favourite things – sex, tattoos, gin, lipstick and living (dis)gracefully over the age of forty. I also cover autism and mental health issues – both myself and my youngest son are autistic and I also have a chronic anxiety disorder. Go me!

My day job is as a freelance writer, covering all the aforementioned topics and then some. My article about ‘What not to say to the parent of an autistic child’ for Metro is one of their most popular posts ever, having had nearly 60,000 shares across Facebook and Twitter at the time of writing. 

I have published several erotica shorts under the pseudonym Indigo Moore, two of which went to #1 on the Amazon UK erotica charts and top ten in the USA. Some of my most popular titles are now available as an anthology and I am currently adapting another into a novella.

I previously ran The Skull Illusion, which specialised in vintage post mortem photography, had daily traffic in the thousands and was featured in Italy’s biggest daily newspaper, La Republicca, amongst others. I closed the site after a hacking attack in 2014 but it now exists once again as a sub-section of SDRR (click here).

If there is one thing I’d like people to take from this site, it is the thought that no one is under any obligation to conform to society’s norms, regardless of age, disability or background. Or as I like to put it:

Be your own tribe.

Violet Fenn x


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Sex, Death, Rock’n’Roll is a personal blog written and edited by Violet Fenn. 

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