Just try not to be a dick

Badge by Veronica Dearly. Click here for info   What the fuck is it with people who think everyone has to fit some kind of template in order to be accepted as part of a social grouping? What if a person doesn’t actually CARE whether they’re part of the group or not? Sometimes you end up being perceived as part of a social group / subculture, even though you’ve never professed to be. This has happened to me on several occasions – and the most common reason for it is people assuming I am a ‘goth’. I’ve used parentheses there...

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Dear Liz Jones…

Apologies in advance for the Daily Fail link, but I wish to correct some of the points made in this article by the consistently and hilariously awful Liz Jones. I know she’s a terrible person – we ALL know she’s a terrible person. But this piece (do go read it first, cos this won’t make sense otherwise) made me chortle even more than most. So, in no particular order:   1) Ballerinas are not by definition ‘not too cerebral’. You don’t endure years of physical torture to reach your professional peak at the pinnacle of the arts by being a bit...

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Angry and scared and sad. But mostly angry.

2016 can go suck my nonexistent balls, quite frankly. What a fucking catastrophic mess of a year – from losing Lemmy at the end of the last one to a reality TV maniac becoming the most powerful person on the planet, by way of Bowie deciding he’d had enough, actually, and we could all just sort it out on our own because he was done with our shit. One of my best friends lost their beloved dog last week in horribly unfair circumstances and everybody who’d ever known him wept because he was the best dog ever and suddenly...

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Learning disability doesn’t have to mean lifestyle disability

  There’s a tendency – even amongst the most well meaning of people – to infantilise those with learning disabilities, which often stems from a desire to care for them and to protect them from the potential cruelties of life. The problem with this apparent kindness is that it has the unfortunate effect of potentially reducing a person’s life to only those activities deemed ‘suitable’ or ‘safe’.  Whilst no one would want to throw a person with intellectual difficulties out into the world without a support network, we need to remember that they are entitled to have as full and varied a...

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A letter to my younger, drunker self (contains swearing, because I was an idiot back then)

You know how people often write a letter to their younger selves, full of sweet comments and life-affirming encouragement? Yeah, turns out I can’t be that nice. Hey, you – yes, you over there in the corner of the pub, skinnier than you think (certainly skinnier than you’ll ever be again), trying to figure out how to hold a conversation with this bunch of people you’ve ended up sitting with but don’t actually know. It’s me, Older You.  Nearly three decades older, actually. Yeah, I know what you’re thinking – still alive, who’da thought? Bit crepey round the edges, but...

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